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It may sound strange, but I do not recall when my father was diagnosed with dementia. Dementia has been in my family for generations, so it was kind of second nature to us. My father’s doctor also made sure to tell us what to expect and when to expect it, which helped us prepare.

One of the biggest things you learn from caring for a person with dementia (besides patience) is how to let go. You must let go of the person you “used” to know and embrace the new person in front of you. It is a very difficult task because there is an attachment to the personalities of the people we love. However, people’s personalities are ever-changing (including our own), and we learn to accommodate those changes.

As my father adopted new quirks, the saying my family used was, “That’s just Dad.” Because he was still our dad, even with the behavioral changes.

My father was in the early-stages of dementia for many years, and my mother did a fantastic job taking care of him. He knew exactly what needed to be done and when it needed to be done, making it seem as though the dementia had disappeared. However, after she passed away, he began to regress. This became apparent to me when we were visiting her grave and he saluted her.

It was then I knew it was my responsibility to continue what my mother had started.

To give my father the proper care he needed, my husband, Eric, and I moved him into our home. Although it was nice being around my father, it was not always fun and games. There were days that Eric would come home after work and I would greet him with, “Just give me 20 minutes of alone time.” That was the telltale sign of a bad day.

Despite the hard times, my father helped out as best as he could. He was always ready to vacuum or do some other house chore that I am sure my mother was having him do for her. Eventually, he even started calling me “Mom” whenever he saw me in the kitchen. I never questioned the name, as I believed it was just something that reminded him of my mother.

When my father progressed to the mid-stages, we worked on giving up the car keys, drinking, and cigarettes. I feel lucky to say that we never got into a single fight over it. With these things out of the picture, it was important that we found something new that my father could enjoy. We discovered that the senior center in our community held weekly meetings for games and other activities, so we tried it out. My father loved it, and looked forward to being picked up by their bus every week.

Once my father progressed to the late-stage, his functions rapidly slowed down. One day, he came to me with the big print newspaper and said he did not want it anymore. When I asked him why, he said, “I don’t know the words.”

This stage was, without a doubt, the hardest part because I knew I had reached the limit on what I could do for my father and that his care needed to be placed in the hands of the professionals. It is tough to not feel bad or guilty for “giving up” care, but it was essential for not only my father’s health, but me and my family’s health as well.

Everyone, both the patient and the caretaker(s), experiences dementia differently–but the sacrifices we make are the same. Dementia can be a very isolating and devastating disease, which is why I, with the help of Eric, started the DFCI – Walworth County. We want to do whatever we can to make it easier on others going through what we went through by providing resources and spreading dementia-friendly practices throughout Walworth.

We are dedicated to identifying, cultivating, and continually supporting communities and equipping their leaders with strategies to create dementia-friendly environments that increase awareness through education, resources, and inclusive programs or activities that promote respect, compassion, and support.

We are honored to have the opportunity to make such a change, and extremely grateful for everyone’s support in making the future dementia-friendly.

-Bernadette and Eric Russow

Why Are Dementia-Friendly Communities Important?

Alzheimer’s can be a scary, confusing, and even frustrating disease for the patient and their loved ones. Often times, these feelings are caused by a lack of knowledge on Alzheimer’s and not being equipped with the proper tools for providing care to an Alzheimer’s patient.

Those with Alzheimer’s related diseases, such as dementia, tend to isolate themselves away from their loved ones and community because they feel embarrassed of their behavior or become easily overwhelmed. Isolation has a severe impact on their mental and physical health, which reduces their quality of life.

Caregivers also carry an immense weight. On average, 25% of caregivers must juggle between work and taking care of an Alzheimer’s patient. The World Health Organization states that, “Physical, emotional, and financial pressures can cause great stress to families and their careers.”

With the number of Alzheimer’s diagnoses in Walworth County expecting to double by 2040, we want to ensure that our community will be in a position to accommodate Alzheimer’s patients, thus improving their (and their caregiver’s) quality of life.

To prepare for this increase, we have provided free dementia-friendly training to over 50 first responders, police departments, religious organizations, and businesses in just four years–and we are continuing to expand that list today.

If your organization would like to become a part of our dementia-friendly list, click here to view our training programs.

Additionally, we provide free seminars to individuals who are caretakers of someone with dementia or are interested in learning more about dementia and what they can do to help their community become dementia-friendly.

If you would like to join a seminar, click here for information about meeting dates and times.

Our Accomplishments

Since 2008, we have worked as volunteers to help raise awareness and funding for the End Alzheimer’s Walk in Lake Geneva, WI. Three years after our arrival, the walk was recognized as the #1 walk in the United States for large communities.

In 2015, we started the first Memory Cafe in Walworth County at Matheson Memorial Library. We have since led the way initiating and introducing Memory Cafes in Lake Geneva, Delavan, Burlington, and Whitewater. Click here for the full list of memory cafes.

In 2016, the Lake Geneva Walk Committee awarded us with the Wally Phillips Spirit Award–which recognizes exemplifying generosity and service above one’s self. Society’s Assets of Walworth County also awarded us with the Dan Johnson Community Advocate of the Year Award–which recognizes active leadership and involvement with projects and issues that advance disability rights and awareness. 

In 2017, we launched the Dementia Friendly Community Initiative in Walworth County. Creating this initiative helped Walworth become the very first county in Wisconsin to be nationally recognized as dementia-friendly by the Dementia Friends of America and the National Association of Area Agencies on Aging.

So far, we have trained over 4,000 people on how to identify, work, and communicate with those who have dementia. We look forward to continuing training and spreading dementia awareness throughout Walworth.

Our Board of Directors

Bernadette Rusow
President

Eric Rusow
Secretary, Treasurer

Marcia Blimbergs
Board Member

Dan Nordsieck
Board Member

Heather Crabtree
Board Member

Andrew Kerwin
Board Member

Contact Us

(262) 320-7325

dfcwalworth@gmail.com

1527 Meadow Lane
Elkhorn, WI
53121

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